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“How do people forgive a crime like murder?” The headline from a BBC News Magazine story asks a question that most of us hope we never have to answer, but it is a question that we would all be wise to ponder.
The BBC article interviews Bill Pelke. In 1985, Pelke’s grandmother was brutally killed by four teenaged girls in her home in northwest Indiana. Fifteen-year-old Paula Cooper, viewed by prosecutors as the leader of the group, was convicted of murder for the stabbing death of the 78-year-old Bible teacher, and sentenced to death. A subsequent appeal based on Cooper’s age reduced the sentence to life in prison.
At the time of the conviction, Pelke said he felt the conviction was appropriate. But after reflecting on the values he had learned from his grandmother, and seeing the impact the sentencing had on Cooper’s grandfather, Pelke began to reconsider.
“My grandmother would not have wanted this old man to witness his teenage grand-daughter die,” he says. “Everyone in north-west Indiana wanted Paula Cooper to die – Nana would have been appalled by the anger.”
Pelke decided that forgiving Cooper was what both God and his grandmother would have wanted him to do. For eight years, he attempted to meet with Cooper, only to be denied the opportunity by prison officials. Finally, on Thanksgiving day in 1994, Pelke was allowed to come face-to-face with his grandmother’s killer.
“I walked in and gave her a hug,” Pelke recounts. He then offered her his forgiveness.
Pelke’s act of mercy was not without its detractors. His relationship with his father, who found his mother’s body after her murder, was damaged for years following the decision to forgive Cooper.
“I knew I was doing the right thing,” says Pelke, “and later my father forgave me for forgiving Paula Cooper. He came a long way.”
Such a desire to offer forgiveness to someone who has done something as unconscionable as murder is difficult for many to understand. Was Cooper not guilty of the crime? Had she done anything to warrant Pelke’s forgiveness? To hold out the promise of compassion in the face of such evil seems unjust – even unnatural.
And that’s because it is unnatural.
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